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drunkwriter: Me in South Park form. (Default)


[personal profile] drunkwriter
2012-06-16 09:27 am UTC (link)
The Dr Nerdlove stuff is very good. Ever since I opted for a lady-dominated subject at university, I've had a lot of female friends, and I've seen countless Nice Guys lurking about. Quite often I've been viewed as an obstacle, because Nice Guys tend to assume that all other male friends of their victim must be playing the same game. And it's amazing how territorial and unpleasant a Nice Guy can become in the interests of 'protecting his "friend"'. Flying to Vienna for a mate's 25 birthday would have been much more fun without the psychopath sleeping in the bathroom in case my friend needed 'protecting' from this Norwegian guy and myself.

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[personal profile] ginasketch
2012-06-16 10:26 am UTC (link)
A friend recently got a 2000 word email from someone she knows telling her why she shouldn't use the word "creepy" because it "shames men."

Because sending someone a 2000 word email on the subject, when the word wasn't even directed at him personally isn't the behaviour of a psycho at all.

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[personal profile] drunkwriter
2012-06-17 06:20 am UTC (link)
A really good friend got the 'no, let's just be friends' rebuff yesterday during the final show of Tale of Two Cities, which produced a bit of an atmosphere backstage. The feeling was that my chum had grounds for being disappointed as we'd all noticed certain body language etc on both sides.

The problem was when other actors started telling my friend that the girl in question had been 'flirting' with them. My chum, to his credit, didn't get involved in the predictable 'slut' accusations that followed, though he got a bit upset and stormed away from the cast party under a bit of a cloud.

What bothers me is the use of the word 'flirt'. K is very demonstrative and a little bit huggy, but I can't think of a single time where I could have deluded myself into thinking she was actually flirting with me. Or with anyone else with the exception of my chum.

So I started using the word 'vivaceous' to describe her, which I think is nearer the mark. I found it deeply weird that people couldn't separate a sparky personality from her interaction with men.

It was a long show, a late party, and I've had little sleep but YKWIM?

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[personal profile] ginasketch
2012-06-17 10:22 am UTC (link)
Oh we are often labelled as either sluts or prudes- somehow there's no grey area with women.

I worry about just *smiling* at men I don't know very well sometimes because they automatically think it means I'm interested in them. Raaargh.

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[personal profile] gwenhwyfaer
2012-06-16 10:03 am UTC (link)
I agree with your assessment of Owen Jones' conclusion. Labour needs to decide once and for all whose side it's actually on - the people who founded it, or the people who already do very nicely out of the Tories thank you (as the Blairites keep urging). Some people are switching to them because they're the only non-Tory vote on the table, but not nearly enough, because they're not nearly opposition enough.

Trouble is, they haven't quite realised that the days of a split left-wing vote ended as soon as the Lib Dems signed up for coalition (sorry; it would have taken a miracle for the Lib Dems to avoid being tainted by that, no matter how the reality played out). Those of us committed to left wing ideals, whoever's pushing them, are just waiting for someone we can get behind - and cannot for the life of us understand why Labour aren't meeting that demand. I can only assume that for Blair to have taken control of the party in the first place, its spirit had to be so comprehensively broken that it could never stand up for itself again... since that appears to be what's happened.

Unfortunately, there's no such thing as intensive psychotherapy for political parties.

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[personal profile] ginasketch
2012-06-16 10:30 am UTC (link)
MEN UR DOING IT WRONG

Their first mistake is they always view women as alien beings that are completely different from them. And the resistance that comes up when you tell them otherwise is shocking.

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