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I don't do Valentines. It's not that I don't have anybody to love; on the contrary, my cup runneth over, both with friendship-type love, familial affection, and the love one more usually associates with Valentines. This is the joy of being poly. And it's not just that I'm a tight-arsed Yorkshire lass and won't spend money on my various partners for Valentine's either. I don't have huge amounts of money* but what I have I am pretty free with.

My objections have been elucidated on this blog before:
I don't generally object to the idea of love, but I do object to it being sanitised and packaged and sold. Love isn't as predictable and safe as that. It's not red heart shapes and fluffy kittens and roses; it's the inability to spend a second of your day without thinking about someone. You can't package THAT and sell it for £4.99.

I also object to the idea that if you love someone you should only show them on one particular day of the year, and that the best way to show them is by buying a card with someone else's fake sentiments in, or a box of chocolates which have been made by the exploitation of hundreds of poverty-stricken cocoa-growers in the third world, or a rose which has been sprayed with pesticides and has been doubled in price especially for the day.

"Here, darling, to show how much I adore you I have contributed to the big fat profits of several Evil Multinational Corporations AND the suppression of the poor AND the destruction of the planet! Isn't that romantic? I also showed how monumentally stupid I am by buying something today for a good double the price it will be tomorrow..."

If a lover of mine decided they wanted to celebrate Valentine's Day, it'd have to be something they made themselves, I'm afraid. I don't do commercialism.
And that's without even going into the horrific lack of taste displayed by most Valentine-related products... They're all mass-produced soppy bullshit, and the love between two (or more) people is ALWAYS very individual, and shaped by the interaction of their personalities**.

Most people who might be going to send me a Valentine are perfectly happy with, and share, my sentiments on Valentine's Day. This suits us all, and also means we all spend less money, which is a laudable aim for any Yorkshire person, whether native or adopted. However, there are a couple who I think are a mite disappointed with my refusal to engage with the orgy of consumerism. I say this because I just got this text message from one of them***:
*adopts actors' stance*
Violets are blue
Roses are red
I've got no money
So you're just getting head
I think that falls into the category of something he made himself, doesn't it? As I type this, though, I think he's just been trumped:Beardy Colin with a message for me? Best. Valentine. Ever.

*In world terms, yes, I am pretty rich. In UK terms I'm really not. Bottom 10%.
**I may revise this opinion if they ever start producing Liberal Valentines with John Stuart Mill quotes on, but I'm not holding my breath
***who also likes Christmas. Go figure.

Date: Thursday, February 13th, 2014 02:55 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] andrewhickey.info
I have to say that both those are the perfect kind of Valentine's messages to be getting (and it's very obvious who sent the text message, incidentally -- your significant others are all very obviously *themselves*...). Personally, even though I've been in a relationship for nearly ten years, I still have more sympathy for St. Skeletor's Day - http://metro.co.uk/2012/02/13/richard-herring-st-skeletors-day-could-be-perfect-valentines-antidote-316750/

Date: Thursday, February 13th, 2014 03:09 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] magister
Oh well, if it's that obvious... Anyway, amused rather than disappointed as far as Valentines goes.

Date: Thursday, February 13th, 2014 06:10 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] hollymath
if it's any help, I didn't think it was obvious but I did think of you once I'd read the footnote.

Even if you had lots of money, there are some presents better than anything that can be bought, and Jennie's examples of that here prove the point very well. :)

Date: Friday, February 14th, 2014 07:35 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] evilawyer
Restores the faith in Valentine's Day, that picture days.

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