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I keep trying to give it up, but I keep drifting back to it.

My mental health has been SO much better the past couple of weeks of tw'oliday, and yet, despite myself, I couldn't stay away and the last couple of days I have drifted back to my usual level of tw'activity, and my usual level of screaming "Oh FUCK OFF" at various screens at various points during the day.

So I'm going to do a pros and cons list to try to decide whether I shouldn't just delete the whole boiling.

Pro: very fast personal news feed.
Con: random attacks from eggs
Pro: get news there that doesn't appear anywhere else
Con: news there is relentlessly depressing, shows the world to be a savage and horrible place, and makes me wonder if there is any point in carrying on
Pro: able to quickly message people who don't respond to texts or emails
Con: even people you love can say things that will upset you all day (recent Lib Dem AWS "discussions" have proven that to the Nth degree)

I liked twitter when it was just you'd say something and maybe it would make people laugh and there'd be fun. Twitter hasn't felt like fun for a long time. There are probably things I could do to make it more fun, but I don't know if I'd end up throwing out the baby with the bathwater... but then if I leave altogether I'm going to be doing that anyway, aren't I?

I dunno. I don't miss faceache since leaving it all those yeas ago. What do you guys think?

(this post brought to you by an utter failure to stop hiding under the duvet and clean the damn house before visitors arrive. YAY for anxiety-caused-procrastination! YAY for the fact that procrastination makes the anxiety worse! YAY for vicious circles!)

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 02:38 pm (UTC)
lilysea: Serious (Default)
From: [personal profile] lilysea
eggs?

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 02:48 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sashajwolf
I always do miss Twitter when I'm away from it for any length of time, because I have a lot of friends that I only really keep in touch with there. It feels like a far more natural interaction to me than other social media, even LJ/DW. But you should do what makes you happiest, and that doesn't have to be the same as what makes me happiest. Do you know what it is about Twitter that makes you keep drifting back? That seems like an avenue worth pursuing, if you're considering whether to give it up for good.

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 03:20 pm (UTC)
sashajwolf: photo of Blake with text: "reality is a dangerous concept" (Default)
From: [personal profile] sashajwolf
I have multiple lists - mostly based on what the people concerned tend to tweet about, one or two based on the type of relationship we have - and just read the ones I'm in the mood for.

Date: Monday, February 29th, 2016 03:41 pm (UTC)
sashajwolf: photo of Blake with text: "reality is a dangerous concept" (Default)
From: [personal profile] sashajwolf
I find the Android Twitter app handles lists okay, provided I have decent signal. If I don't, I usually just stay off social media, because it gets too bitty and frustrating.

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 02:55 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sfred
I dunno. I like you being on Twitter.

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 03:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newandrewhickey.livejournal.com
I like you being on Twitter as it means there's often an opportunity to have a conversation with you and know how you're doing, but without having to have a specific reason to email.

Some suggestions as to how you might make it work better for you and cause fewer problems:
Have two accounts -- a public and a private -- like I do. Lock the private and use the public one mainly for linking (this would also help you with your new linkspamming setup -- if you linked the linkspam to the public account, but did most of your retweeting from the private account).
Do what pseudomonas does and mute all retweets, at least in one client -- he's said that he finds that most of the stuff that stresses him comes from retweets, not original tweets. You could always turn them on when you have a good brain day, to see more news stuff, and then off when you have a bad one.

I think those two would probably at least cut down on the first two cons. The third, I'm afraid, is a universal problem of human interaction and the only cure is to lock oneself in a darkened silent room :-/

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 06:46 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] pseudomonas
If you want to turn off all retweets semi-automatically and see if it works for you: http://adambernard.net/cgi/unretweet ; I've turned back ON retweets for a couple of users who I know will only RT stuff of cute puppies, awful puns, and mediaeval manucripst.

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 06:47 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] pseudomonas
The two-account system sounds a good notion as well.

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 06:52 pm (UTC)
pseudomonas: (Default)
From: [personal profile] pseudomonas
In addition: I've just this morning muted in Tweetdeck the surnames of all the US presidential would-be candidates. I'll be doing similar with a bunch of referendum-related keywords in due course. This is not cheating!

Re: This is to both Adam and Andrew.

Date: Monday, February 29th, 2016 02:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newandrewhickey.livejournal.com
It looks like muting has become a general cross-platform Twitter feature, rather than a solely-Tweetdeck one now https://support.twitter.com/articles/20171399#

Re: This is to both Adam and Andrew.

Date: Monday, February 29th, 2016 03:14 pm (UTC)
sfred: (Default)
From: [personal profile] sfred
In Janetter (for mobile and for desktop) you can mute users and/or words/phrases. I use it a lot. It doesn't carry over to web twitter - I'd have to mute people there as well if I used it enough to notice.

Re: This is to both Adam and Andrew.

Date: Monday, February 29th, 2016 03:18 pm (UTC)
sfred: (Default)
From: [personal profile] sfred
Fair enough! I have had that only occasionally but it's very frustrating when it happens.

Re: This is to both Adam and Andrew.

Date: Monday, February 29th, 2016 03:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newandrewhickey.livejournal.com
Gah. Why do they have to make it so difficult to actually *use* their service?

Re: This is to both Adam and Andrew.

Date: Monday, February 29th, 2016 03:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] newandrewhickey.livejournal.com
I think Plume ( https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.levelup.touiteur&hl=en_GB ) has the "mute a keyword" feature for Android. You'd still have to use separate mute lists on both, but if in general you only need to mute things for a short period, that might be manageable.

Re: This is to both Adam and Andrew.

Date: Monday, February 29th, 2016 08:23 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] pseudomonas
Twidere allows muting. Or only using twitter from PC might reduce dependency on it? :)

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 03:18 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] rmc28
I gave up twitter for over a year, when it was interacting badly with post-natal depression. I left my account active, but I stopped following everyone except @fanf, and then when I did go back, I was very very selective about who I followed.

I got the idea from a friend, who called it Twitter Amnesty: unfollow everyone and start again. When I first joined twitter I followed all my friends, and there are people who I love dearly whose twitter feeds are really bad for me: whether it's World Is Doomed or You Aren't Angry Enough or I Am Combative On Here Take It Or Leave It. Twitter Amnesty helped me break out of following my friends like that out of habit.

I hate hate hate trying to have any kind of nuanced conversation on it - the multi-tweet back-and-forth is painful. But I quite like it for sharing links, for short funny things, for brief social exchanges (and friendship is built on multiple exchanges, both brief and long-winded).

I found it incredibly helpful for staying in touch with people when I got cancer, especially during my hospital stays. There are some friends that mostly I only stay in touch with via Twitter (even if I don't follow them, they respond to me or to @fanf). I'm trying to do better at maintaining community & friendship, to go where my friends and loved ones are: so I'm lightly active on Twitter and ditto on Facebook these days. (FB is mostly for my extended family, and mostly for keeping them up to date on the kids, and I am ruthless about hiding posts that hit World Is Doomed or Be More Angry buttons on me.)


tl;dr you don't need to keep doing something that makes you unhappy; Twitter Amnesty might be worth considering for you

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 06:51 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] pseudomonas
Oh, definitely agree - there are people who are lovely in person and whose twitter feeds are just horrible for my MH. And people who are decent will be understanding of "I like you but I don't want to follow some of the stuff you post".

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 05:29 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] el_staplador
Unhelpful answer: up to you! I enjoy your tweets but I wouldn't want you to be staying in a place that was making you miserable just for my amusement. There are plenty of other things on the internet to amuse me.

My personal strategy is to unfollow with extreme prejudice and block without guilt or mercy.

Date: Sunday, February 28th, 2016 07:45 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] haggis
I like seeing you on Twitter. I second the suggestions above - having a private account keeps me safe from trolls and sealions and turning off RTs or blocking keywords may help keep your stress down.

Date: Monday, February 29th, 2016 10:56 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] karohemd
You could lock your account so no eggs can shout at you but that would probably severely restrict the reach you want to have.
*hugs*

Date: Monday, February 29th, 2016 11:43 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] nanila
I was on the point of leaving a few months ago until I hit on the idea of turning off almost everyone's RTs. Now I find it a lot more fun.

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