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- We are having a beer festival at work. I may have mentioned this once or twice already LOL.
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burlesque_bunny and I decorated the pub earlier, and there is much beer available, and I will be VERY busy over the next few days. If I don't answer your email or comment, therefore, please don't take it personally. - The big story of the day seems to be that something may or may not have happened in Watford. My favourite take on it is The Daily Quail's, but there are others from Sara Bedford, Stuart Sharpe and Heresy Corner.
- Misogyny News: size zero girls are unattractive, but so are fat girls, so unless you are BANG ON NORMAL you are doomed to a life of miserable singledom, and people pointing and laughing at you in the street. Certainly you won't be able to have a busy and fulfilling sex life with a variety of attractive and talented partners
like wot I do.
Meanwhile,qualified
sex therapist Tracey Cox thinks that if a married woman doesn't want to have sex with her husband:when you said ‘I do’ you said ‘I do’ to sex as well. Sex is part of the bargain if you expect your partner to remain married to you and faithful to you.... Your husband has a right to expect regular sex and ‘duty shags’, I’m afraid, are all part of the ‘working at the relationship’ that experts rattle on about
It's like 1992 never happened, isn't it? What, you thought spousal rape had been illegal in the UK for longer than 17 years? Nup. And even that is only case law. Could easily be overturned by an Act of Parliament. Still, all the battles of feminism are won, aren't they? [/heavy sarcasm] - If you torture someone, you become more likely to believe in their guilt. Conversely, if you hear about someone being tortured, you are more likely to believe in their innocence. Either way, torture does not produce reliable evidence. So why do people still do it? Oooh, I know. It's because they are IDIOTS!
- And now for something completely different: top ten reasons why dating a vampire sucks.
what are the democratic and political reforms you most want from the next Parliament?
STV. That's all I want. Well, it's not ALL I want, but pretty much everything else I want will either follow naturally from it, or will be made easier to get by it. There have been several Lib Dems saying
I'm not going to be predictable and say STV, I'm going to say *insert airy-fairy idea here* instead, but I think that would be wasting the opportunity. Electoral Reform is THE most important topic of the moment; and STV is a panacea for a huge number of the problems with our democracy. So yeah, give me STV or give me death. Or, you know, gin so I can cope with the lack of STV.
As usual, I'm not tagging anyone, but I would particularly like to see NON-politics bloggers have a go at this one.
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RE: Bracknell Blog - thats twice I've seen that advertised (one by the people who run it and you) tis a small world XD
Silly boy.
I also think trying to get input from non-political bloggers would be great. Why do you not want to tag anyone specifically?
MR
Essentially, his point is that marriage does not give anyone the right to unilaterally end someone else's sex life. Sex is something that people reasonably expect in a relationship, the same as people expect to have someone to converse with, the same as people expect to have someone to go along to horrible obligatory social events.
So here's my take on it. Socially - sex is bad and evil and only bad, evil people do it, so it's often socially acceptable if one partner just completely ends the bad, evil sex.
Except that really, sex is neither bad nor evil, and the desire for sex is normal. It is completely and absolutely reasonable to expect sex within a relationship unless it's made very clear early on (definitely before marriage vows) that sex will not be a component to the relationship. If a husband suddenly stopped speaking to and listening to his spouse, because he had "just gone off chatting" for a while, no one would be as understanding.
I expect sex in my relationship. I do not expect my partner to be available to me on demand, but I do expect that he be available occasionally. Quite honestly, if "it" stopped working, I would still expect my partner to find alternative ways to be sexual, or if that didn't appeal to him at all, I would expect that he would let me seek physical gratification elsewhere.
The woman who wrote the letter - she's talking about her partner. Someone that she hopefully likes enough to figure out a way that they're both happy to be around each other, the same as anyone would do for any friend. Better advice would have been to tell her that she needs to either find ways to compromise on sex, OR ELSE allow him find sex elsewhere under terms that they can both live with.