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miss_s_b: (Mood: Not London)
2010-07-20 18:28
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Why London is the centre of the universe, and why systematic sexism still exists

(this entry composed on my phone, so formatting will likely not be very polished. Apologies for that)

It's all about the adversarial mindset, baby. Every question is binary, Either/or, yes/no, you win I lose.

Is London the centre of the universe? If the only possible answers are yes or no, then everyone who lives in london is bound to say yes, ESPECIALLY people who have moved there from elsewhere, after all, why would you put up with the squalor and the crampedness and the horrendous expense and the faff if it wasn't? The number of people who buy into the myth is a reinforcement to all the others, and everybody admires the emperor's new clothes. Meanwhile, those of us who live in the provinces resent the Londoners for getting all the money, all the attention, etc. We particularly resent the refusal of those who live in london to travel outside it - if it's the centre of the universe, after all, by definition nothing that happens outside london can be important - despite the fact that you can get to my house by train faster from king's cross than you can get from one side of london to the other.

What if we didn't think in this binary, adversarial fashion. What if we accepted that, despite it's wonders, there are legitimate valid reasons for people to live outside of London, and they don't deserve to be completely excluded from all decision-making as a punishment for this? Well, of course, intellectually, people claim that they DO accept this, and they get offended when you point out that their behaviour says otherwise. London-dweller logic is like smoker logic. If coming to meetings in london is difficult for you, the solution is easy - move to london! Etc.

How does all this apply to sexism, then? The same tendency towards binary thinking can be seen affecting gender balance. Intellectually, everybody knows that all people are individuals and deserve to be assessed on their own merits, but we can't help but be embedded with stereotypes. Women are better at some stuff, men are better at others, and the fact that the difference between members of each group is always orders of magnitude bigger than the difference between the average man and the average woman doesn't impact on most people's belief that because the average woman is better at x than the average man then THIS PARTICULAR woman must be better at x than this particular man... It takes a huge weight of evidence on the part of the disadvantaged party to get people to believe that they really ARE good at x, and they have to do the convincing every single time. And the othe similarity is that if you point out to someone who doesn't believe themselves to be sexist that they are behaving in a way that supports and reinforces this system, they get incredibly offended... And don't even get me started on racism, the very definitionn of us-or-them thinking.

I don't know what the solution to any of this is. But I'm a liberal, so I believe that there must be one, and it must be one that it is possible to persuade people to adopt.

Or perhaps I've just found another brick wall to beat my head against...
miss_s_b: (Fangirling: Beer!)
2010-06-30 12:09

I am slightly hung over...

Yesterday was fun. I went to lunch at [personal profile] djm4's house, which was lovely. It was good to see David and Giles and the kids, and eat lovely home cooking, and lounge on the lovely comfy sofa and watch Top Gear and various home movies. I always feel really relaxed and secure in that house; it's one of my happy places. Unfortunately this means I generally end up late for whatever is happening afterwards, which happened again yesterday... Oops.

Still, when I DID get to the Bree Louise, I ended up having a lovely evening. [personal profile] djm4 came along with me, and we met a pretty diverse crowd, including [personal profile] nanila, [personal profile] rhythmaning, [personal profile] innerbrat, Andy Strange, [livejournal.com profile] davegodfrey, [livejournal.com profile] ginasketch [livejournal.com profile] nadriel and Jon Ball. I didn't get to spend as much time with each person as would possibly have been ideal, but they all seemed to be getting on with each other, and the pub was lovely, with good beer and edible food at reasonable prices.

I am now on the train home, composing this on my phone, and I have a lovely 8 hour shift at work to do when I get back... Hangover does seem to be dissipating somewhat, thankfully.
miss_s_b: (Fangirling: Beer!)
2010-06-28 21:18
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Venue for tomorrow Night

Totally unexpectedly, the poll was inconclusive, aside from that the one most people couldn't make it to was The Pembury. I have therefore made an executive decision, and it's going to be the Bree Louise. This is for three reasons.
  1. We always end up at the Head, and I want to go somewhere different

  2. It's not that far from the Head, and anyone who could make it to one can make it to the other.

  3. I looked at the website, and specifically the food menu and the beer list, and even more specifically the cheese board, and I thought bugger the Head.
So who's definitely coming? Do I need to ring up/email and tell them to save us a table?



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miss_s_b: (Fangirling: Beer!)
2010-06-28 14:57
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Where shall we go for drinkies? - a poll.

Please only vote in this poll if you are planning on meeting me for drinkies tomorrow - it will help me to decide a venue, and votes from people in (say) Manchester who aren't coming anyway will only muddy the waters.

Please note that ticky boxes are enabled for the first two questions, and you can thus pick more than one option. The last question is to determine preference.

Poll #3649 Venue
This poll is closed.
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 10


Which Venue COULD you attend on Tuesday night?

View Answers

Jerusalem Tavern, Clerkenwell (suggested by Nanila)
5 (55.6%)

The Pembury Tavern (suggested by Tajasel)
4 (44.4%)

The Head of Doric Winchester or whatever it's called these days at Euston Station (suggested by Innerbrat)
8 (88.9%)

The Harp in Chandos Place (suggested by Rhythmaning)
6 (66.7%)

The Lamb in Conduit Street (suggested by Dave Godfrey)
6 (66.7%)

The Bree Louise in Euston (suggested by Lord of Misrule)
7 (77.8%)

The Cro Bar, Soho (suggested by me)
8 (88.9%)

Which Venue would you be UNABLE to attend on Tuesday night?

View Answers

Jerusalem Tavern, Clerkenwell (suggested by Nanila)
2 (50.0%)

The Pembury Tavern (suggested by Tajasel)
3 (75.0%)

The Head of Doric Winchester or whatever it's called these days at Euston Station (suggested by Innerbrat)
1 (25.0%)

The Harp in Chandos Place (suggested by Rhythmaning)
0 (0.0%)

The Lamb in Conduit Street (suggested by Dave Godfrey)
1 (25.0%)

The Bree Louise in Euston (suggested by Lord of Misrule)
1 (25.0%)

The Cro Bar, Soho (suggested by me)
0 (0.0%)

Which Venue would you MOST LIKE to attend on Tuesday night?

View Answers

Jerusalem Tavern, Clerkenwell (suggested by Nanila)
1 (10.0%)

The Pembury Tavern (suggested by Tajasel)
2 (20.0%)

The Head of Doric Winchester or whatever it's called these days at Euston Station (suggested by Innerbrat)
2 (20.0%)

The Harp in Chandos Place (suggested by Rhythmaning)
2 (20.0%)

The Lamb in Conduit Street (suggested by Dave Godfrey)
1 (10.0%)

The Bree Louise in Euston (suggested by Lord of Misrule)
1 (10.0%)

The Cro Bar, Soho (suggested by me)
1 (10.0%)



ETA: I think you should all know that I now have where do you go to, my lovely stuck in my head now...

miss_s_b: (Fangirling: Beer!)
2010-06-25 00:03
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Attention Londony Peeps: Are you free on Tuesday evening?

I have discussed scheduling with mine host, and determined that Tuesday night is a suitable evening for BEER. Obviously the location will need to be somewhere fairly central so that everyone will be able to easily come. It will also need to be somewhere that has Proper Beer, at least to begin with (although I wouldn't be averse to ending up in the CroBar drinking silly cocktails).

Where is good, and who wants to come?
miss_s_b: (Fangirling: Don Warrington)
2010-06-23 14:06
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PSA: I will be Darn Sarf next week

Given the tone of my last couple of entries, you could be forgiven for thinking I have been a bit down the last couple of days. Well, I have. But with his usual exquisite timing and stylishness, the Duracell Bunny has sent me something to cheer me up:



So I shall be darn sarf from Sunday Evening to Wednesday morning. I seem to vaguely recall [personal profile] innerbrat suggesting something for Tuesday, but does anyone else have any meeting and greeting suggestions? Be advised that I have to do Who Daily Monday and Tuesday, so I won't be able to be out all day like I was last time; short engagements would, however, be welcome.

ETA: obviously all suggestions will have to be discussed for feasibility with mine host, too.



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miss_s_b: (Default)
2010-05-25 09:05
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There is Nothing So Horrible...

... as being on a Victoria Line Tube in this weather.

That is all.
miss_s_b: (Music: HiM)
2010-02-25 14:44
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The Last Few Days in Song Lyrics, plus karate news and a picture quiz.

Rather than doing a Thoughts From the Train á la Lady Mark (partly because I'm not as profound as him, and partly because the wifi on the train kept crapping out on me, and thus I'm not actually posting this from the train...) I'm going to post a bunch of song lyric couplets, in roughly chronological order of how they popped into my head over recent days. Not all of them are strictly relevant so I wouldn't bother trying to attach them to a particular situation if I were you, but points for anyone who can identify them all.
  1. I ran into my room and I fell down on my knees
    Well I thought that fifteen was gonna be a breeze

  2. She hates time, make it stop
    When did Motley Crue become classic rock?

    (sorry, had to do that - ;) George) - 1985 by Bowling for Soup

  3. I loved the words you wrote to me, but that was bloody yesterday
    I can't survive on what you send every time you need a friend
    - A New England by Billy Bragg

  4. That's what you get for falling in love
    Now I'm addicted and your kiss is the drug
    - Bad Medicine by Bon Jovi

  5. A nice little house wife, who'll give me a steady life.
    And not keep going off the rails.
    - Say Hello, Wave Goodbye by David Gray (cover of Soft Cell)

  6. I don't need no Monday or the rest of the week
    I spend a lot of time in bed, but baby I don't like to sleep, no

  7. Would you like some zucchini? Or my homemade linguini, it's hard to beat
    Have some more fettuccini, ay, you getting too skinny, you got to eat
    - Lasagne by Weird Al Yankovic

  8. I got it from some kitty next door
    I went and see the doctor and he gave me the cure
    - Cat Scratch Fever by Pantera

  9. I got trouble, trouble in my eyes
    I'm just looking for another good time

  10. Tastes so good make a poor man cry
    Sweet cherry pie
    - Cherry Pie by Warrant

  11. I'm sitting in the railway station. got a ticket for my destination;
    On a tour of one-night stands my suitcase and guitar in hand.
    - Homeward Bound by Simon and Garfunkel

  12. As long as you're still smiling
    There's nothing more I need


    or, alternatively, the boyband version

    If loving you with all my heart's a crime
    Then I'm guilty.
Karate tonight was... interesting. We had a mock for my belt grading and I think I did OK, except for the fact that my outside block is still woeful. This has led to the frankly bonkers idea getting into my head that I'm going to have to teach Mat how to do chudan punches so I can practise blocking them...

In unrelated news, one of the things that a certain Mr Strange was telling me this week was that he doesn't think he's rock 'n' roll enough. I think you guys should judge for yourselves:



I ask you, what could be more rock 'n' roll than being a Brucealike? ;)



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miss_s_b: (Mood: Not London)
2010-02-20 19:23
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Attention residents of That London

I shall be arriving in your fair city on monday evening and staying until thursday lunchtime. On monday evening I shall be chez Duffett, tuesday lunchtime I have a lunch date, and tuesday evening I am being shown the delights of Luton.

If anyone else would like to slot themselves into my schedule, please let me know. Hopefully this post and the two prior ones mentioning this visit will be enough to stop me getting moaned at on twitter that I haven't told anyone I'm going this time :)


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miss_s_b: (Fanigrling: Rumpole)
2010-02-18 17:49

Stuff

I'm not going to comment too much on the Jan Moir/PCC thing. Millennium says everything I could have wanted to. I am annoyed to be on the same side as the Egregious Tory Tosser, though, who is holding forth on the radio at the moment.

I am, instead, going to concentrate on good things.
  1. I have arranged for a bit of time off from work next week to use the return train ticket which is burning a hole in my pocket. I shall therefore be in London and surrounding areas Monday evening till Thursday lunchtime. If you live in or around London and want to see me, please take note. It would be particularly nice if someone can offer me a place to crash Monday night, as Duracell bunny won't be around until Tuesday afternoon. All offers gratefully recieved.

  2. Mat and I stopped off at the pipeworks on the way home from work, and got some fabulous discarded old pipes to use as plant pots in the garden. Pictures will be forthcoming when they're planted up.

  3. I have karate tonight YAY!

  4. Plans to get Kaligula up for sale on eBay are approaching fruition. If you know anyone who wants to buy a car, watch this space.

  5. And finally, I want this on a t-shirt:



    And I think it would suit [livejournal.com profile] burlesque_bunny too ;)




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2007-05-15 21:43

Hello [personal profile] purplecthulhu

Yup, I've been added by the person with possibly the coolest username on LJ.

I have Achieved Things again today; I built my new bed (YAY it's very comfy!) and did a shift at work and actually PUT SOME CLOTHES IN MY WARDROBE!!! And bought Megabus tickets. [livejournal.com profile] matgb is coming up here for Spring Bank weekend (in which there will be beer festival and live music at work and hopefully lots of sex to break in new bed yay!), and then the weekend after I will be moseying down to That London to go to Tate Late and fangirl Shami Chakrabati and Mark Thomas.

Does anyone else have difficulty, when small children are watching Postman Pat, in refraining from singing the rude versions of the theme tune?

ETA: ka-boom ka-boom ah! )