Friday, March 8th, 2019

miss_s_b: DreamSheep dreams of the Angel of the North (Blogging: DreamSheep: Angel of the North)
Questions via [community profile] thefridayfive here

1. Are we losing the art of listening?

I don't know what you mean, I'm listening to music right now [/sarcastic answer]
I think this all depends in who "we" is. I certainly seem to spend a large amount of time talking over things with other people. This, I believe, is known in human terms as "friendship". I sometimes get confused as to why people feel I am the right person to come to with emotional stuff, because I tend to be quite robust in my advice... but maybe people like robust? Anyway, people do come to me to talk about things, and that's 1, flattering and 2, comforting, because it means I know that I will always have someone to turn to when I need it.

In terms of humanity in general, I think there is a general and growing unwillingness on the part of women* to do men's* emotional labour without reciprocation or complaint, but I think that's a good thing. Firstly because it means that men* are starting to develop their emotional literacy and help each other instead of all relying on a single significant other for emotional heavy lifting (where women often have a much broader emotional support network), and secondly because women* could do with a bit less work. The irony of posting this on International women's day is not lost on me.

* not all women, not all men, and even within those groups to varying degrees, but it works as a generalisation. I am very lucky that the men in my life are mostly pretty good at being reciprocal about this stuff.

2. Have you ever interacted with the police?

There's a friendly rozzer I usually wave at when I see her around town. And when we got burgled that time obvs there was a degree of interaction. Other interactions... Look, I'm queer, I've got oddly coloured hair and piercings and tattoos, and I've been on quite a lot of protests. I also attend political conferences twice a year looking like I do. What do you think? I'm not going to be any more specific than that about this stuff because frankly it's my business and not the internet-reading public's, but... I feel I am perfectly justified in my dislike of the police force in general, and their institutional illiberalism and prejudices, but I try very hard not to hold that against individual officers.

3. Do you like being alone?

For a given definition of alone. I always have my phone, which contains my friends and loved ones 24/7. But yes, sometimes I need to not be in physical proximity with other humans. This is usually how I gauge if I have fallen in love; I can be comfortable with someone I love near me when I can't bear the thought of being near humans and want to run away and hide. There's a much smaller number of people I can do that with than there are people I have had sexytiems with: the current list is four people.

Usually being alone means actual distance and barriers between me and other humans: walls/doors/etc. The one exception to that is being in a pub. I'm always comfortable in a pub. I think this is possibly because from being tiny my parents often took me to the pub with them, and then I spent so many years working in them. It's a comforting environment. So I can happily "be alone" in a very crowded pub.

4. Who would you share your passwords with?

There are a couple of people who I share some passwords with - the whole family knows the family Netflix password, for example, and there's a few of us with the password to the LGBT+LDs twitter account. And I suspect there's a fair few people know my wi-fi password. Pretty much everything else is in a password manager because I have hundreds of online accounts, and I don't even know what most of my passwords are because they are randomly generated. The master password for the password manager is securely locked up in my head; the only ones I actually know are google account, spotify, and firefox sync.

5. What are you grateful for today?

Friends, Family (biological and found) and Lovers.
The train that is going to take me to a joyous meeting in a few hours' time. Speaking of which, I ought to finish packing...

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